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The Church . . .

7/26/2025

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It’s happened again. And it should never happen.

A husband died. The widow waited. And no one. I repeat No One from the church came to visit.

Why? Oh, we can think of all kinds of reasons—excuses—but rarely do those reasons add up.

In just this last year, at three different churches (should you be prone to criticize one congregation) one person became bed-bound, one person housebound, one person extremely sick, and two husbands died. And in each case--no one from the church came to visit. One pastor did visit, another texted, but as for the body of Christ—not a one.

And every one of these individuals was involved in their church, one of the deceased a church board member.

I have determined that a lot of people go to church, but very few are the church, because God’s commands are crystal clear.

James 1:27—“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”

Matthew 25:36, 40,  41-43 — “ . . . I was sick and you looked after me . . .‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’. . . Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I . . .I was sick and you did not look after me.”

There is a lot of focus on prayer and praying right now, and well there should be. Our number one priority is to have a right relationship with God and to be in communion with Him. Jesus said this, when he said the greatest commandment is to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”

But the second follows right on its heels. “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

James 2:16 states “If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it?”

Then again in James 2:18—“But someone will say, ‘You have faith; I have deeds.’ Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds.”

Yes, we might be busy. Yes, we might not know what to say. Yes, we might feel awkward,  and yes, we need to pray. But we also need to DO something.

​Matthew West’s song “Do Something” says it so well.


8 Comments
Linda Taylor
7/26/2025 07:35:16 am

All valid points and church should not be that way. However on some occasions no one told the church or staff or pastors that someone is in the hospital etc. pastors are expected to be omniscient and mind readers. This happens more than you might think, especially in larger churches

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Jody
7/26/2025 04:52:14 pm

I am more than willing to give pastors a pass as they have so much on their plate and I think any means of reaching out is good. BUT when the small groups that these individuals have been involved with and who KNOW the situation fail to respond, then I have a problem with that. The pastors are charged to equip the congregation, not do everything.

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Poco Castillo
7/26/2025 07:26:34 pm

I agree, cuz. We are all saints and are admonished to encourage one another, pray for one another, help one another, etc. No excuses.

Poco Castillo
7/26/2025 03:58:37 pm

Sadly, it has been my experience as a pastor’s wife that some parishioners are not satisfied with “just another church member” visiting or caring. Many seem to think pastors wield special power with God, their prayers are more effective, and a visit from clergy is quite the status symbol. No wonder pastors burn out - such unreasonable expectations!

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Jody
7/26/2025 04:55:52 pm

Poco, I know and such expectations and beliefs I think signs of spiritually weak individuals. However, I don't think that excuses the body from getting involved regardless of how the visitee sees their spiritual "power."

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Poco Castillo
7/26/2025 07:32:20 pm

Reminds me of the time a parishioner told Sam “the church needs to give so and so $100 so she can get her prescription meds.” Sam said to him, “Aren’t you the church?” (knowing this guy could easily afford $100). The guy was incensed.

Linda taylor
7/26/2025 07:15:06 pm

We see the same problem just approaching from different angles, all valid. To your point, Jody, this reminds me of the time I had to ask Mom’s long time SS class to please come and see her as she was dying. That’s appalling People are very wrapped up in themselves

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Linda C
7/27/2025 06:40:45 pm

That's a good wake-up call for all of us, including me. Thanks for the kick in the rear!

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    Jody Eileen Solinski spent her career teaching in the California public school system where she enjoyed helping young adults take their place in society. A native Californian, she enjoys the outdoors and so loves living in Northern California where she can enjoy the beauty of God’s creation up close.

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